50 shades of discomfort !!!!

 

I have realized a disturbance in the male world because of the uproar caused by women with Mr. Grey in 50 shades of Grey Trilogy!!! ...

There really are a lot of nuisance widespread ... and I've read texts such as:

- Ahhh ..... that's it what you like, women?? ... Be beaten ...- You were enchanted by Mr. Grey, because he's a billionaire!!- Nothing in the book is a new thing!!- The Anastasia Steele is totally unfunny and is not possible for her to call attention by an executive!

Anyway !!

But it is important to be analyzed what is behind in a  more or less story and really badly written! ... After all, any reader of Kafka, like me, realize that this is not a Literary Work. But the fact is: This trilogy (50 shades of Grey, 50 shades darker and 50 shades freed) became a best seller and it has some reason.

After reading some articles and chat with male friends I got a few considerations:

Since the world began, the woman is the female of the relationship and the man is the male. But after the women´s revolution, the woman won the male way and the man, lost what is rightfully yours.
This book brings a very interesting sociological movement, is like a plea, a cry ... for the things to go back to their rightful place.
Women were handed to Mr. Grey, for some lack of that reality offers. And so, I invite you for a serious reflection on the role of man which is rather expected for any woman, even a CEO of a multinational.
The man is not stunned with the sudden interest of women in books, but unconsciously, are being prodded by their role are leaving this aside. And it happens for a number of reasons, including their education.
Most of the men from today are grandchildren of grandparents coming from the postwar, who suffered a lot and had children, which was the only option was to work  so hard to reorganize the society and in this way to work hard, they didn´t have time to create their children more closely and to assuage the guilt, gave up too much, gave then a lot of things and and charged anything, these boys are now men, who do not quite know what to do with their lives and especially when the comes to relationships. And in the other hand, women are acting in a Collective Unconscious with the billionaire from the book. And here I dare to say that there are factors that lead this trilogy become a bestseller. A man who knew what he wanted for his professional life, he became an executive at a young age. He is beautiful and seems to care properly, it is self-esteem, has footprint (he says having sex with force), but above all, he is clear and transparent about to formalize a contract, is loyal and faithful and demands it from his partner . So ... it is not hard to understand what is being put on the table. Relationships today are very fleeting, the men - without generalizing of course, coming from the education mentioned above, arriving at 30´s and they don´t know what to do with their professional life and it is clear that it is not a criticism but an observable fact.
Self esteem is also complicated for the men nowadays, considering the charge from the media and who does not fit, would be out of the game.
According Ms. Steele, the fact to be a "boring girl", as men have spoken , don´t expresses the scientific reality of human relationships between men and women.
For example, in a country like Brazil where the woman has to have chest and ass, I think ... what should be done with slim girls?
In fact this is not important. We are animals, driven by the Smell. Are pheromones that tell louder in the hour of flirting and attraction.
You're in a bar and good feet (unfortunately animals like you and me are limited, the others animals it could be measured by kilometers) enters the person who unknowingly awakens your smell and when she or he enters in the hall, it's just she or he that you can see and this person could be Anastasia Steele.
Now, nearing the end of this article, I say again - in my perception, the question of the "Contract" - clear rules,this is missing these days, and this thing needs to be rescued. How many people have heard that people don´t dating anyone because no one wants nothing serious!! ... People nowadays do not have rules, go out, have fun, have sex and the next day .... it was just a moment ..... it is tiring. Although, I have friends who will say that I'm crazy, but I still insist on saying ... people are tired of the lack of building intimacy. The lack of ethics in relationships and especially in the absence of believing that men and women, can complement themselves in a partnership of friendship, passion, loyalty and achievements.
So men do not fall into the trap of saying that women who surrendered to the book are unloved, who believe in enchanted princes and they are self-serving because it would be as you are signing a certificate of incompetence. Remember again, this is not a criticism, because all the alternatives in this paragraph are not true.
So open your minds, and understand what we want and that is not also different from what you want and finally, that this man acclaimed in the book really exist. he is just hidden inside of ALL OF YOU ..!!!

Mary Morgado.